anytime you update the Ride Command software do this.
Have ride command forget your phone and any other Bluetooth devices. Go into your phone and forget ride command.
Then do not connect your phone via Bluetooth to ride command, just the headset Keep also in mind that 90% of all car play issues are with the lightning connector making intermittent contact. Clean out your phone socket with a toothpick. You be surprised how much lint will be in there.